Developments in neuroscience have shown us that connections within our brain are continually forming and reforming. What that would suggest is that we are in a “constant state of becoming” throughout our lifespan. How we develop is linked to how we approach life and how we challenge ourselves.
Emotionally and psychologically we learn much of who we are through our interactions with others. As we mature and become adults, our new experiences continue to reform that juvenile brain. To each situation we have the opportunity to develop new ways of being, but we also carry previous patterns of behaviour developed over a lifetime. A senior manager, for example, may intellectually understand the need to value and motivate themselves, but the child within might still crave for approval and external endorsement/direction.
Beyond the physical techniques, Hapkido training motivates a student to question their view of the world. We learn that we are a collection of possibilities. The environment of the Hapkido class with its discipline and etiquette, aims to provide a way of nurturing people’s potential and enabling growth. As they progress through the ranks, students get the opportunity to explore who they are, to question their fears, anxieties, and ego, and to let go of old ways that may be holding them back.
Creating an environment that supports this sort of progression is a massive responsibility for the instructor; it demands a relentless examination of one’s own intentions and motivations. Growth within Hapkido, no matter one’s level is not about chasing new experiences, but rather embodying a beginner’s mindset, with all its curiosity and openness. What I mean is that our physical practice needs to be underpinned by an ongoing desire to learn and challenge ourselves mentally as well as physically. By being open to learning, at ease with what we don’t know and seeking personal growth in everything we do, we nurture our own possibilities. We also encourage those around us to do the same.
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I was reminded by your blog of the importance of approaching many things with a beginner’s mindset, and not just Hapkido.
I feel so fortunate in Hapkido that my development is supported by you, my Saboumnim. Add to that, the people I train with are open minded and cooperative. Sometimes, though, I leave the gym on a Wednesday morning and immerse myself in a different world, which is not always as nurturing or even productive. I love my work, but you have made me think, do I approach it with ‘relentless examination of one’s own intentions and motivations’. Honestly, not all the time. Yet I feel at my most inspired and motivated when I allow myself to look at something as if it were a blank sheet of paper. Your blog reminded me that the lesson I learn from and the things I love about our school can be taken beyond the mat to bring me and the people around me a happier and more fulfilled life.